How To Handle An Adult Woman Throwing A Tantrum
Quelling someone else’s temper tantrums isn’t something most of us have to worry about until we actually have small children. But Arie Luyendyk Jr., the current titular bachelor,claims to want a wife and family stat, so perhaps it’s cheap canada goose appropriate that he had to test his own tantrum defusing skills on Monday night’s episode.
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But this raises the question: What would be the optimal way for Arie to handle such a stunt? Should he have left her alone all night to stew? Should he have taken her hurt seriously and tried to comfort her? Or should he have confronted her and let her know that throwing a fit would get her nowhere?
Arie chose the latter option, leaving the other women at the evening party to talk to a spa robe clad Krystal in her hotel room and lay down the law. “I think you canada goose outlet trillium parka black should stay up here tonight,” he told her. “Know that I’m not happy about [your behavior].”
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So what was the right way to handle Krystal’s power sulk?
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Claire Fallon: So Arie says, “I think the right thing for me to do is probably check on her. I don’t https://www.canada-goosejacketsale.org wanna disrespect you guys by going up, but she has such strong feelings so I should probably address it.”
Erin Darke: By the way, I don’t think that was the right thing to do.
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Claire: He told her not to come down. He went up and was like, do not come down. And she did it anyway, but he told her not to.
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Erin: But she also just wanted attention.
Emma: But she wanted it to work in her favor, and instead he’s so much less into her.
Erin: He said, “I don’t want to be disrespectful to you,” [to the other women], but I do think it was disrespectful, because he just left those nine women sitting on this couch in the W Hotel for god knows how long while he went and talked to the girl in the robe.
Emma: I also wonder, though, if it’s partially that he knew he was gonna have to have this conversation at some point. There’s no way the producers were gonna let him not confront Krystal in this moment.
Claire: If I were him I might just want to get this over with, so that I’m not thinking about it.
Erin: Maybe with another person it would have worked more. Arie’s like a dating robot. You can feel him processing information and then going like, “What would a human do next?” There’s a 10 second lag between everything he says.
Claire: I also just wanted to point out again that Krystal is in a robe when Arie shows up but her hair and makeup are perfect.
buy canada goose jacket cheap Emma: Oh she has been preparing for this moment, which is why I enjoyed that he did shut her down. At one point he says, “It’s just bowling.” buy canada goose jacket cheap
Claire: And she says, “It wasn’t just that, you know that.” Why would you say that? He literally just told you it was just bowling.
Erin: But then he also says to her, “You know me better than anyone else here,” which just encourages her. He said it at least twice.
Claire: canada goose outlet online uk I feel like it was a way of reprimanding her, though. Like, “you’ve had more opportunity than anyone else to know me, and yet you can’t trust me, you can’t treat me respectfully. It’s not that I haven’t given you what you need in order to treat me better.”
Erin: She’s canada goose outlet online reviews seen his home videos. [All laugh.]
Claire: So Krystal says to Arie, “I felt very passionate and I felt very hurt and I said things out of hurt and I don’t feel like I know anything about you.” And that’s when he’s like, “You know more about me than anyone.” And she’s like, “I know, but I need more.” And he says, “If you were downstairs, we’d be able to talk about it, but this is what couples can’t do, run away from their problems, and when things like this happen, it makes me pull back.”.