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I’ve spent the last 48 hours speaking to the men and women in my life, reiterating the details (Ford says that when they were both in high school Kavanaugh assaulted her at a suburban house party, an incident her lawyer said she considers an “attempted rape”), and answering their questions. But no matter how these conversations start, they all seem to end in the same place.

“But. he was a kid,” my nearest and dearest say. “He was just being young and stupid. Are we really going to hold him accountable for something that allegedly happened when he was so young?” Many add the obligatory, “Obviously, if what this woman is saying is true, it’s horrible and wrong.” As if emphasizing the “wrong ness” of it negates the fact that they don’t believe there should be concrete consequences for said wrong.

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I knew a ton of young and stupid boys when I, too, was young and stupid. They may have stolen candy from Rite Aid or smoked weed or, come to think of it, sold weed. (Crimes for which “young and stupid” boys who are not powerful, rich, white men regularly bear long term consequences for in this country.) But, as far as I know, none of my young and stupid friends held down a girl and tried to force himself on her.

As Rebecca Traister so aptly put it on Twitter: “Much of [the] defensive reaction I’m seeing around Kavanaugh (and not just from the right) suggests that lots of people think a regular part of male development is the stage where boys drunkenly pin down young women and canada goose outlet try to assault them.”

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buy canada goose jacket cheap I’d prefer a Supreme Court nominee who hasn’t been accused of canada goose outlet montreal sexual assault, even if the next appointee still wants to gut Roe v. Wade. canada goose outlet trillium parka black So, why am I being told I’m asking for too much? Why are we still focusing on a man’s redemption story instead of a woman’s trauma? buy canada goose jacket cheap

canadian goose jacket Ford told The Washington Post that after the alleged assault, she suffered dramatically in all parts of her life. She struggled academically, socially and in her relationships with men. canadian goose jacket

“I think it derailed me substantially for four or five years,” she said. Now 51, Ford says she still deals with anxiety and symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder due to the alleged incident.

canada goose store The impact and trauma from sexual violence is lifelong. But, somehow, we’re still focused on the perpetrators. We always seem to be focused on canada goose outlet 2015 the perpetrators. If Kavanaugh’s access to power one canada goose parka uk of the most powerful jobs in the country is the most important talking point in this conversation, what does that say about how we value Ford? What does that say about how we value women and survivors? canada goose store

Canada Goose sale The conversations with my friends (who, it’s worth noting, are progressive, well educated people) points to the most disturbing piece of this controversy: Even after the Me Too movement and all of the social strides we’ve made, we’re still valuing the perpetrator his opportunities, his success, his access to power over survivors. Canada Goose sale

canada goose uk shop If Kavanaugh did what Ford says he did, it doesn’t matter if he was being young and stupid. It doesn’t matter if he was drunk. It doesn’t matter if he’s never again attempted to rape anyone. His alleged behavior forced Ford to endure decades of lasting trauma. Is that not enough evidence to bar a powerful man from getting even more power canada goose uk shop.

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